5 Truths for Dads (#27 Small Talk 2018)

For all new dads of little boys!

for all dads

It’s all too easy for a father of a little boy to think it’s going to be a breeze – after all, you have been a little boy yourself…been there AND got the T-shirt. But then as your son starts to develop his very own personality, and possibly resisting your advice, you scratch your head, trying to figure out a way to connect with your son.

Before all of that happens all dads should consider these 5 father-son truths – you may not agree with them but the fact is that your little one is always watching what YOU, his dad, is doing and he will want to copy whatever that is, because you are his hero, you are his DAD!!

Here are the 5 truths:

1: How dad handles women

how you handle women

Your little boy is watching how you treat women. Your little guy will be watching how you treat women. If you talk to them and treat them with respect, he will copy this as he grows older as he will have learned that women deserve respect.

2: How dad handles men

He is also watching how you treat other men. What does it really mean to be a man? And what about gay men – how do you treat them? Is everyone equal in your eyes? Your impact as a positive male role model is priceless.

3: Does dad like himself?

Are you kind to yourself? Do you take an extra day off every now and again instead of working late again? Play with your sons? If you splurge a wee bit on a special family vacation, that little boy is going to notice and absorb the information.

4: Learning from dad

The little guy wants to learn everything from you – sometimes he needs you to be the tough bloke and discipline him if he needs it. He also wants your hugs and kisses too –love and affection should not just be reserved for girls. Sometimes he needs you to actually say “I love you”

5: You are true to your word

When you keep your word, balance your cheque book, tip a waiter/waitress, he notices and he will encompass it in his adult life, because you have shown him the way.

Final thoughts

final thoughts

Although little boys gravitate towards their mom when very young, they also need their dad. They watch (even from mom’s arms!) and emulate what their dad says and does and they WILL copy what they have observed dad doing once they have grown past the “Mamma’s boy” stage and are now the “little man”. You are “daddy” right from the moment that little chap appears and bonding with your baby boy could be a big help in curbing behavioural issues by the time he reaches his first birthday. So don’t just leave it all up to mom and expect to step in when your little boy is “old enough to be fun”. Have fun with him right from the minute he is born!

Share your thoughts with me in the comment box or email them directly to me at lydia@gofotolifestylenewbornphotography.co.za

Yours in lifestyle newborn photography

Lydia

photo credits: GoFoto Lifestyle Newborn Photography

Refs: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/07/120718192607.htm 

http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/style/the-role-of-fathers-with-daughters-and-sons/  

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