And would like to say if he could
Bonding with you is not guaranteed to happen immediately I pop out! It takes me some time to get used to being out of a nice warm environment and not having to do anything to get fed! And it is tough work having to learn how to latch on and get my sucking action right! So be patient if I wriggle and squirm and cry for my food!
Night time is PLAY time! When I was in your tummy, you rocked me to sleep during the day as you went about your daily activities. Then at night when all was quiet, I used to wake up and do a roll or two, or three in your tummy. I stretched, I turned and I played! Now that I am here, in my crib, it is difficult for me to swop my night play time to and get the message that I should play in thedaytime and sleep at night! Be patient and I will get it right – it will just take a bit of time!!
3: Frequent feeds
I do feel a bit bad about your having to feed me every 3 hours or so and I know that breastfeeding is hard work for you! But I’m hungry because I am growing so quickly. The bright side is that you at least use up calories whilst you feed me AND it helps you to lose a bit of weight, whilst I grow big and strong and healthy.
4: Support groups
I would love you to find a support group and listen to what other mommy’s say but don’t think that all that is shared has to apply to me!!. Remember each little human is an individual and I am YOUR individual. But at least you can get some ideas to try out for that tired brain of yours! And you can get much needed sympathy from the others in the group if I am giving you a tough day!
5: I trust in you
Above all mom, I trust you and you must trust in yourself. What works for you and for me is right. Even if the book says it isn’t!! Don’t be made to feel guilty or be pressured into doing anything which feels wrong to you. If I am thriving and happy then you can’t be doing much wrong, can you?? YOU are my mom and I think that you only want what is best for me. Times change and new knowledge becomes available so what worked for your mom when you were a little being, may not work for you with me as your newborn. Realise this, accept it, embrace it, gently let your mom know that it’s no longer done that way (or that you have tried her suggestion and it just doesn’t work for your baby). Follow your instincts and do what YOU feel is right and I will be happy!!
I love you lots, mom. You are always there for my every cry and although you sometimes don’t understand what I am trying to say with my cries (I understand that it takes time to learn a new language!) you nearly always seem to know what I want and you lovingly give it to me!
P.S I am sorry about all the wet and dirty nappies! This too, shall pass, I promise!!!!
I’m sure that if only babies could pop out into the world being able to speak, we would hear lots of interesting thoughts that must be going on in their adorable little heads. What are they thinking when they see you for the first time? Or when you play with them? Or at all the things in the world around them that they are seeing for the very first time? I’d love to know, wouldn’t you?
Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated – drop me a line below in the comments or, if you prefer, drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org
Yours in lifestyle newborn photography